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10 Questions to Ask Yourself Before Deciding Whether to Have Children
The decision about whether to have children deserves better questions than 'do I want this?' Here are 10 that actually help you find out what's true for you.
Sophie van het Erve
4 days ago3 min read


What a Child-Free Life Actually Looks Like — Honest Reflections
A child-free life is rarely shown as the full, intentional, rich path it can be. Here are honest reflections on what choosing not to have children actually looks like.
Sophie van het Erve
Jul 133 min read


Am I Scared of Having Kids, Or Do I Just Not Want Them? How to Tell the Difference
Am I scared of having kids? Or do I not want them? Fear of having children and not wanting children feel similar but they're different. Here's how to start untangling them, so you can hear what's actually true.
Sophie van het Erve
Jul 64 min read


The Pressure to Have Kids Before 35 — What's Real and What's Just Noise
The pressure to have kids before 35 is real. Here's how to tell the difference between genuine biological reality and social noise.
Sophie van het Erve
Jun 293 min read


How to Know If You Want to Be a Mother (When You Genuinely Don't Know)
How to know if you want to be a mother? No quiz can tell you if you should have children. But there are real questions that help you find out what you actually want. Here's where to start.
Sophie van het Erve
Jun 223 min read


I Don't Know If I Want Kids — Now What?
Uncertain about whether you want children? You're not broken or indecisive. Here's why not knowing is worth paying attention to — and what to do with it.
Sophie van het Erve
Jun 153 min read


How I Created a Workbook for Women Who Don't Know If They Want to Be Mothers (The Motherhood Question That Matters)
Why I created a guided workbook for women navigating the motherhood question — without pressure, noise, or outside expectations.
Sophie van het Erve
Feb 46 min read
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